Why come an see us?
Life Therapy Coaching helps people with a range of personal challenges, on a flexible bespoke basis; using cutting-edge coaching and therapy techniques to reconnect people with their true selves and reach their full potential.
Lacking in self-esteem and confidence
Many of us are affected by low self-esteem and a lack of confidence in social, professional or personal life, and it can be crippling. But it can also be addressed. Using the effective yet gentle coaching techniques we will explore with you how you really feel about yourself, uncover negative beliefs which are unconsciously holding you back, and replace them with new positivity to transform your sense of self-worth and confidence to excel.
Afflicted by anxiety, phobias or depression
Anxiety and fears (both rational and irrational) come in many forms, and facing up to these fears, dissolving mental blocks and teaching yourself coping strategies can transform your state of mind. Perhaps you’re struggling with emotional eating, a fear of flying, or terror at the idea of public speaking. Or perhaps you struggle with a more general sense of anxiety or even depression, limiting how you live your life. Using scientifically-proven and astonishingly effective coaching methods we will help you shift the stuck emotions feeding your fears, helping you to overcome anxiety and increase resilience.
Wingwave® Performance Coaching and Presentation is a focused technique to address the specific fear of public speaking. Learn how to give confident speeches and presentations even when caught unprepared.
In a relationship rut
Our lives are continually shaped by our relationships: some of us feel unhappy in a relationship, while others are desperate to find the right one. We firmly believe the secret to happy relationships with others is to first be happy with yourself. We can help you establish this, gaining a true understanding of who you are and what you need. We have helped countless clients explore their relationship patterns and enabled them to achieve greater harmony and joy in all their relationships.
Overwhelmed by parenthood
Parenthood, whilst wonderful, is a minefield of worry and conflicting advice. Exploring and developing a conscious personal ‘parenting style’ can be a life-changing process, bringing more harmony and understanding to the whole family.
We offer a six-session programme considering children’s emotional and developmental needs, and helping you assess your parenting influences and develop your own practical parenting approach.
What approach will suit you best?
When we first meet you’ll be given a private consultation to get to know you and your individual needs; we’ll work out together what techniques and approach might help you, whether Deborah or Daniela would be best-placed to help, and the timescales and costs of your bespoke programme.
We see clients privately on a one-to-one basis; we also work with couples, and run therapeutic groups, workshops and retreats, and even online courses.
You are unique, and we will tailor our tools for your individual needs.
How long will it take?
Our input with you might be a short-lived intervention to address a specific problem, or it might involve a medium – or longer-term programme to work deeply with you over months to find the answers you need.
You will be in the driving seat of your own journey with us. Be prepared for rapid results – our coaching therapy can provide intense and powerful transformations -but equally we always make sure that we work at the right pace for you.
What techniques and approaches do we use?
An effective short-term coaching concept combining several well-proven techniques to reduce stress and anxiety by shifting stuck emotions or unpleasant memories. Highly rated by businesspeople athletes, actors – even dentists treating dental-phobic patients, wingwave® will rapidly stabilise your emotional and mental balance, restoring your energy and inner peace, and preparing you to tackle your fears or challenging situations with confidence.
wingwave® is a scientifically-proven coaching procedure combining several fascinating psychological exercises to remove unpleasant memories or stuck emotions that are acting like a splinter in a wound or a scratch on a CD, preventing your brain and nervous system from processing properly:
Bilateral hemisphere stimulation
Everyone experiences negative emotions in daily life – stress, embarrassment, anger. Normally these emotions fade with time until they can hardly be recalled. But sometimes they don’t fade, instead getting “stuck”, with the two hemispheres of the brain unable to co-operate to process the emotions. Usually, we process stressful events while sleeping, during the REM phase when our eyes move horizontally in a natural self-healing process. Stress can impede this REM phase leading to a constant feeling of pressure and failure to process emotions. Bilateral hemisphere stimulation simulates REM sleep while the client is awake by inducing horizonal eye movement to prompt natural emotional processing and removal of the mental block – very often giving intense flashes of insight at the same time.
Imagine if we were all provided with a ‘user’s manual’ for our brain, with instructions on how to re-set or re-wire when necessary. That’s really how neuro-linguistic programming works, giving you the manual to analyse and re-programme the language of your mind to debunk misconceptions and negative associations you have regarding yourself or your behaviour. It helps you get to the root of preconceived notions – anything from a lack of social confidence to a fear of spiders – reorder your thoughts, and ‘fix’ the issue to permanently change your behaviour and habits.
A simple muscle response test involving forming a ring in the shape of an ‘o’ with thumb and index finger, and applying maximum force. The consequent muscle reaction gives a good indication of stress levels and is therefore useful in gauging the effectiveness of the wingwave® process.
wingwave® takes its name from the wing beat of a butterfly, which according to chaos theory, whilst being a tiny movement has the power to change the world if the beat occurs at exactly the right time and place.
It has been developed at the University of Hamburg, German Sports University Cologne and Medical University Hanover. Their studies have shown that with only two hours of wingwave® coaching a candidate with a fear of public speaking can become a confident presenter who takes pleasure in performing.
In 2014, wingwave® was a finalist in the Association for Business Psychology`s Workforce Experience Awards in the category ‘Excellence in Coaching or Training’.
For further reading, try the practical book wingwave-Coaching: Like the beat of a butterfly’s wing – EMDR in coaching (2015 edition, UK) by Cora Besser-Siegmund and Harry Siegmund, or visit the website www.wingwave.com
A powerful mind-body technique supported by the latest research on emotion, memory systems and brain functions. The Pesso Boyden approach empowers you to rewire your negative thinking and limiting behavioural patterns, not just through talking but through the movement of your body and non-verbal language. Explore unresolved issues from your past (of which you may not even be aware), to develop a personal antidote and gain profound feelings of confidence, optimism and self-worth.
The Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP) is a widely respected psychotherapy technique that helps clients create new memories to compensate for emotional deficits in the past, using a unique, revolutionary body-based method, combining classical psychology and cutting-edge neuroscience to produce profound, transformative and relatively quick results.
It was developed by Albert Pesso and his wife Diane Boyden, who as dancers had come to understand the powerful role our bodies play in storing and processing emotions and memories. Whilst talking about our problems can help (by stimulating the rational ‘left brain’ to reach awareness and understanding), rational understanding alone doesn’t often change habits or lives. We carry so much of our emotion around with us physically, our bodies engaging with the non-verbal right-hand side of our brain, that this really is the key to lasting change.
Pesso and Boyden therefore created a body-based system to enable people to physically release traumas and re-programme their systems by creating ‘new memories’ or symbolic ‘counter-events’.
This ‘fills in the blanks’ of missing developmental needs and unmet maturational requirements that are the basis for self-fulfilment and trust. You release untapped potential, leading to a more optimistic life perspective and more successful interpersonal behaviour. You will experience the delight of becoming more tuned-in to your own and others’ thoughts, feelings and needs, which leads to greater pleasure, satisfaction, meaning and connectedness in your daily life.
A positive, empathetic and holistic approach to therapy that uses focuses on you as an individual, working with you to observe and explore your own behaviour; concentrating not on childhood experiences and past events, but how you feel in the here and now. Whether you suffer from depression or anxiety, have relationship issues or are searching for wholeness in some way, share your feelings in an atmosphere of trust without fear of judgement, growing emotionally and psychologically towards self-actualisation and fulfilment.
Humanistic therapy is a slightly different approach to traditional therapy, focusing on the individual and encouraging them to observe and explore their own behaviours, empowering them to recognise their innate strengths, creativity and choices. Humanistic therapy is a positive approach, promoting ideas of self-development, taking responsibility for our lives, and personal growth. It focuses on constructive traits, behaviours and instincts; and works on the belief that we all naturally gravitate towards goodness and all have the ability – with the right guidance – to find wisdom and reach our goals.
Humanistic therapy is a ‘talking therapy’, encouraging clients to open up in a safe atmosphere of trust and support. But where it differs again from traditional therapy is that it doesn’t focus on past experiences or traumatic events, but on how the individual feels in the here and now. The humanist view is that it is not life events that cause problems, but how the individual experiences life events, which in turn affects how we feel about ourselves in general, our self-esteem and our confidence.
The humanist approach is used to treat a whole range of problems including depression, anxiety, panic disorders, schizophrenia, addiction and relationship issues; but is equally transformative for those suffering from low self-esteem, those feeling they are not reaching their full potential, or those searching for a true sense of ‘wholeness’.
Centaur personality styles programme
Providing life-changing insight into how you present yourself to the world and how to interpret the thoughts and behaviours of others in corporate life, the Centaur programme combines psychology and neuroscience with an optimistic belief in human value. By identifying five body-mind personality types and the key characteristics they display in the workplace, Centaur teaches you how to recognise, influence and inspire each personality type, both in yourself and others around you, bringing greater self-awareness, confidence and productivity.
The Centaur Personality Styles Programme was developed by Sandy Cotter (with whom Deborah trained), following the work of late 20th century psychologist Alexander Lowen, who identified five body-mind (bioenergetic) personality types. Centaur has taken these five personality types and applied them to a corporate context, providing an invaluable tool described as ‘an ethical unfair advantage’ over business competitors.
The Centaur mind-body connection helps you to identify each of the types of person from key physical characteristics which mirror aspects of their personality and disposition. Each type requires a markedly different approach in how you reach, manage and inspire them:
The Heroes (Warrior and Huntress)
Noted for high energy, ambition and fair play, this type insists on rigorous preparation and favours logical, articulated thinking. They thrive on challenge and are highly-motivated to succeed.
The Guardians (Good Fathers and Earth Mothers)
This type is grounded in warmth, pragmatism and generosity. They focus on people concerns as well as the task. Guardians, as their name suggests, are capable and genuinely care about people and often ‘parent’ their teams.
The Superheroes (Wonder Women and Superman)
Noted for their dynamic charisma, Superman and Wonder Woman are a highly ambitious type and are often found in leadership position. They have an opportunistic flair and a great love of ‘saving the day’!
The Romantics (Damsels and Poets)
Noted for bright minds, sensitivity and openness, these graceful and social individuals can be a key asset to a team forging valuable relationships with clients, charming difficult situations into successful outcomes.
The Magicals (Sprites and Wizards)
Noted for creativity and integrity, these individuals are often perfectionists and can become deeply preoccupied with the purity of their work. Their creative contributions are often the making of a team/project/corporation.
Centaur is an extremely powerful tool for self-awareness on both a personal and professional level, giving immediate accurate insight into your own and others’ thinking and behaviour: a truly life-changing gift that will alter your perspective, give you greater confidence in any interpersonal situation, and re-energise and re-boot your approach to work.
An empowering psycho-spiritual approach to relationships, personal growth and communication, Voice Dialogue (or the Psychology of Selves) teaches you to identify and come into dialogue with your many – often conflicting – inner selves. Consciously listening to these inner parts of you will enhance your self-awareness and help you access suppressed feelings, perceptions and abilities, transforming your life and relationships with others.
Voice Dialogue was developed in the 1970s by two American Jungian psychologists, Hal and Sidra Stone. It’s based on the idea that our personality is made up of many different and sometimes contradicting selves.
You probably already refer to some of these selves in your everyday language, with familiar phrases like your “inner child”, “inner critic”, “inner perfectionist”, and “inner demons”. Other selves might be described as ‘pleaser’, ‘pusher’, ‘perfectionist’, and ‘caretaker’. These selves all have lives of their own and their own feelings, thoughts, opinions, values and body sensations, with a profound effect on our behaviour patterns and emotional and mental balance.
Voice Dialogue teaches you to identify and communicate with these inner selves, enhancing your self-awareness and giving you access to unconscious or suppressed feelings, perceptions and abilities. It encourages discussion between the parts of self at odds with one another, by inviting the various selves to speak freely and to manifest themselves with all their energy. At the same time it engages you to listen to this inner dialogue, giving you a deeper insight into your behaviour, feelings and life choices, thus enriching your life and relationships.
Daniela is fully trained and qualified in Voice Dialogue technique, which has become a highly regarded method in use across psychotherapy, bodywork, coaching and conflict resolution. It supports creativity and self-expression, resolves tensions and enables people of all ages and emotional mindsets to reach their full potential.